Starting the New Year focusing on the New You?
That’s cool, but maybe make this the year you focus on growing your marriage, too.
As the years go by in a relationship, it is very easy to view your partner as the one who needs to change. It is easy to blame the other person that the relationship isn’t quite the same as is used to be.
Right?
Well, not exactly, it isn’t always that easy. It takes two to tango!
Rather than waiting for your partner to ask you to dance, extend your hand and pull them on the dance floor yourself!
We need to stop blaming our partner for the relationship taking a back seat to an over-scheduled life and start making changes ourselves!
Be the one to take the step toward your partner. Be the partner you want to have!
Here are three tips to grow your marriage in 2020!
Craving a date night?
Don’t wait for your partner to call the babysitter and make the reservation. Plan it YOURSELF! Do it with a smile, and know that spending time together will be good for both of you.
Show interest in your partner’s interests.
Does your partner like gardening? Plant something together. Read up on the basics and watch your efforts take form in the garden.
Does your partner enjoy fishing? Suggest the whole family goes on a fishing outing!
Does your partner like running? Sign up for a fun-run that you can do together.
Showing interest in your partner’s interests shows the interest you have in them! These first steps are often a good reminder of the good things that come from spending time together.
Find a relationship book!
Check out Eight Dates from John Gottman that encourages you to have conversations on the big topics that come up in marriage (sex, money, and trust to give a few examples)!
Growing your relationship can take time and effort (just like individual growth takes too). That is not a bad sign. It is reality! So continue to focus on yourself as you planned for in the new year, but, also, take your partner and your relationship along for the ride!
