Should I Rent or Buy? An Adulting Dilemma


We all find ourselves at this significant crossroads at some point or maybe multiple times throughout our adulthood if you have relocated for jobs, weather, or family  — should you rent or buy a home? It’s a decision that makes you compare the size of your current savings with your dream house’s price tag and question your past and future financial decisions. Renting vs buying is a debate that unfolds countless financial analyses, making you feel like you’ve suddenly become an economist. So, let’s cut to the chase and discuss the pros and cons in detail.

Now, before we dive deep into this subject, remember one thing: there is no one-size-fits-all answer to this query. The decision to rent or buy a home depends on a multitude of factors — your financial situation, personal preferences, career stability, future plans, and real estate market conditions, to name a few. Nevertheless, let’s start untangling this knot together, shall we?

Renting a Home

First, let’s explore the idea of renting. There’s no denying that it’s a more flexible option. If you’re a non-committal type, are often on the move due to your job, or simply love the freedom to relocate as you please, renting may be your go-to thing. Besides, you don’t need to worry about maintenance costs or unexpected repairs – they are usually the landlord’s responsibility. It’s amazing how free your weekends are when you are not working on home improvements! You usually only pay for utilities, rent, and maybe a small renter’s insurance policy – and voila! You have a roof over your head without the complex hassles of homeownership.

However, everything is not all rosy in the world of renting. Rent hikes can sneak up on you, disrupting your financial budget. Plus, you don’t actually own the place. So, despite paying substantial sums over an extended period, there’s no actual asset-building involved.

Then there is the emotional factor. Can you handle living in a home that isn’t “yours”? It’s yours for the period of time you’re renting it, you’re making memories, of course, but that’s it. The tile in the bathroom, paint color on the walls, cabinet color, you have no control over and likely can not change. One time I presented to my husband adding some shrubbery to the landscaping of our rental house (I just hated how the outside looked!) and he nearly blew a gasket!

Buying a Home

Switching gears, let’s think about buying a home. Buying property is often seen as an investment, a tangible asset to build equity. It symbolizes a sense of permanency and security, the absolute freedom to transform the interiors, and a sound financial decision to safeguard your future. The joy of life’s first coffee in “your own” home, the satisfaction of painting your living room in the hue of your fondness – some things are truly priceless!

On the flip side, becoming a homeowner isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. It involves heavy responsibility with costs for everything from property taxes and insurance to unexpected repairs to managing mundane tasks like mowing the lawn. You should also factor in a healthy dose of financial stability since buying a house means securing a mortgage, putting up a substantial down payment, and committing to a long-term financial obligation. Also, I remind my clients that you should not use your emergency fund as part of the down payment. In other words, when you put down your down payment, your emergency fund needs to stay intact. 

Comparing what you pay in rent to what you would pay for a mortgage isn’t a 100% accurate comparison. You need to think about all of the costs you would pay for a home you own versus costs you may not incur for a rental. Pest control, window treatments, paint, landscaping, moving costs, décor, flood insurance, and property taxes just to name a few. And we would be safe to bet that insurance and taxes will increase each year. 

Over the past couple of years, interest rates have been a huge factor in buying or renting. When interest rates were 2-3%, it was practically free money! People were overpaying for houses because money was so cheap to borrow. Now that interest rates are a little higher, that creates a larger monthly payment. Find a mortgage calculator online, keep the down payment the same, and change the rates. It’s amazing how much the monthly payment changes based on the rate!

So, we circle back to the original question, should I rent or buy a home?

It would be best if you considered both your current financial reality and future plans. Maybe renting is more suitable for your dynamic lifestyle now but start setting aside savings for when you’re ready to put down roots. And if you’re up for the investment and commitment, buying might be the perfect move for you after all. Talking with a neutral third party, like a financial advisor, who can remove the emotion from the facts and help you decide on a strategy that works best for you is always a good move. 

Remember, it’s not a race; it’s all about timing and readiness. Whether you are enthusiastic about vibrant wallpapers in rented apartments or the freedom to build a treehouse in your own backyard, the ‘owning vs. renting’ decision is personal, and profound, and should be made wisely.

In the emotional battle of renting vs. buying, may you win. After all, home is not just a place—it’s a feeling!

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After a long weekend visiting Mt. Pleasant in January 2022, Shari Rash called a realtor and had their Vienna, VA house listed for sale within weeks. By June 2022, Shari, her husband Joe, their au pair, and four kids made Mt. Pleasant home. And they haven’t looked back! Since then they added a Goldendoodle puppy, Flash Rash, to the madness. Originally from Southern NJ, she hated that Summer only lasted three months. Shari is the founder of Greenway Wealth Advisory, a virtual financial planning firm dedicated to empowering women when it comes to their finances.


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